Today two people told me that it was weird that I was dating Gym Teacher. Apparently the fact that he grew up poor and majored in Physical Education means that he is beneath me, brains-wise, and that we have nothing in common.
And I mean… Yes, his family belongs to a different socio-economic class. But his parents also work hard and have their own house. They do not live off of welfare.
Yes, he went to a crappy public school and barely speaks English. But he’s also the first in two generations to go to college and get a degree. He also plans to eventually get his masters (and learn English).
Yes, he works at a gym for kids teaching gymnastics and karate. It is an hourly, rather than salaried, position. But he has a JOB, which is more than I can say of a lot of people, regardless of education.
I am happy. I feel comfortable around him. I trust him. He makes me laugh, and he turns me on. So… screw the haters. I’m going to keep dating him as long as I keep feeling this way.
I get this sort of thing too. Mike is a baker and works for an hourly wage (He does have a degree in Special Education, but he is obviously no longer doing that). For some people, this seems like yet another issue to add to the long list of “reasons” I should probably just break up with him because my relationship is preventing me from meeting people that are my age and what, class? education level? Because what you do for a living and how you get paid for it is not always an indicator of how smart you are. There are a lot of different ways to be smart, and those who think that all hourly jobs are for people who aren’t smart are huge snobs who have never actually performed a craft or desperately needed to pay the bills.
But you know what? Haters gonna hate, not having a salaried job or an office job doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with intelligence, artisan baking is really awesome, and those are stupid reasons not to be with someone who makes you happy and treats you right. I hope the people who have said things like that to you aren’t close friends. The people who have said stuff like that to me were either family (can’t really be helped, fortunately not my parents) or friends of limited acquaintance.